I’ve been having this discussion with my female friends for a while. Most of the men I know, however, pooh-pooh the theory of soulmates and always put it in the realm of probability without committing.
They seem to be of the opinion that it is possible, but at any given time there could be many potential soulmates and it is up to you to pick and choose, or that one cannot base his life merely on instinct or gut feeling. But when I discuss it with the girls, I find that they have doubts. Mind you, some of them are in very satisfying and committed relationships, while some are single. However, the doubts still rage, and here are some of them:
1. How do you know if he/she is the one? If he/she is the one, why am I not in a state of joy?
2. Is it possible to zero in on someone and decide that he/she is your soulmate without the person having a clue? Isn’t that a bit loony?
3. What exactly is it that you need to work out in your life till you arrive at the point where you can choose your soulmate? Or should one accept that there is nothing to work out, we are perfect and wait for the soul mate to drop out of the sky?
4. Is there a cellular memory that draws us to others with similar cellular memory so that we can then fuse together like some great scientific miracle?
5. Is it just one-for-one?
6. If the soul is omnipresent, omnipotent and all-pervading, why does it feel the need for a mate?
7. Could your soulmate be of the same sex? Is my best friend my soulmate then? Could your soulmate be of a different species then? For instance, your dog? Isn’t it presumptuous and vain to believe that only the human form has a soul?
8. Is it that human beings feel inadequate and incomplete and therefore, need a mate? Does that necessarily have to do with our souls or our emotional, financial and physical needs?
9. If we all have a male and female dichotomy in us should we not be able to rely on only ourselves? Like the “yin” and “yang” and Ardhanarishwar, or right brain-left brain theories…
10. Coming to the male-female dichotomy in all of us, does that mean Shiva and Parvati were the same person? Or were they two individuals who became one?
11. Is it possible that we are ignoring our immediate reality, refusing to accept the perfection in our lives as it exists and therefore, clinging on to the notion of a soulmate? Keep it at a level of fantasy and dream on… create a magical, mystical web in our own heads and…
12. Meera considered Lord Krishna her soulmate without even meeting him and spent her life offering Krishna’s stone idol her love and her music.
I think I can do it too. Why does a soulmate have to take a human form?
I believe Ganesha is my soulmate.
The thought is making me really happy and I can eat as many modaks as I like. He won’t even notice that I’m getting fat!