Jagmohan Mundhra- my sexy barracuda!

Yup that’s what i used to call dear dear Jag- much to his amusement and delight.

Why Sexy barracuda-he would laugh? His wife Chandra was even more amused by the title than Jag himself was. Most of his friends called him teddy bear- because he was the most lovable and huggable man

He had a dodgy image because of the erotic genre of films he explored.How did a brilliant Marwari from MIT become an erotic film maker? He had the mindset of an intellectual -conversations with him about everything under the sun never ran out of steam. I asked him about it a few times “A man has to earn a living and look after his family’ he said. But then  also admitted that artisically it did inspire him-a fact that many close to him and who loved him dearly could never reconcile themselves to. ‘Men do think like that Suchitra -he would laugh ‘But’very few have the guts to admit it’

I used to tell him that i love him too much and never want to see those erotic films of his . I would rather remember him for Kamla and Bawandar and Provoked.

Infact one time a few years ago when i decided that i should be mature and open my mind to other artistic expressions i actually went to a screening of one of his erotic thrillers. Only to hastily run out in 10 mins !

Unlike most filmmakers whos ego’s precede anything and everything they have ever done or will do and feel insulted at anything that dosent pander to stroking their fragile self confidence-Jag  wasnt offended at all.

He laughed at my explanation that those erotic scenes made me very uncomfortable and patted my hair and smiled. ‘Its allright’

I’ve known Jag for almost 15 years-from the days i used to hang around at his apartment in Los Angeles.  In those days i used to accompany my husband on frequent trips to LA and hotel rooms were cold and lonely-so i would hang at his place and go window shopping at malls -often with his bright and beautiful daughter Smriti.  Then in London where he lived a few doors away from me  for about two or three years- and then back in Mumbai where we had both relocated

I remember the time i was pregnant and told him i was having a craving for mysore paak-the south indian mithai. He was in chennai-and promptly got me a truckload of it- sweet sweet man

The news of his death was a shocker -63 is no age to go. When i first got the news i refused to beleive it -hoping it was just an incorrect rumour. Jag  had so much left in him, so many stories to tell so much love to share

Its what we were discussing yesterday at his condolence meeting. The man has left such good energy behind. Everyone was talking about him with a smile

I will miss his tight hugs and the warmth. And i will miss calling him and listening to his ringtone ‘Mein zindagi ka saath nibhaaata chala gaya’

17 thoughts on “Jagmohan Mundhra- my sexy barracuda!”

  1. I knew him too.He was a gregarious soul and was amazingly
    erudite! I had the pleasure of running into him at my daughter;s
    place.No topic was beyond his ken,Nothing did he touch which he
    did not adorn! He had ideas that might seem queer but he had a
    way of putting them across in a convincing way.Every time I met
    him I returned richer and happier!
    May his soul rest in peace!

  2. hey there, read the sad news ..he surely was a great soul, may his soul rest in peace!
    also wanted to tell you, am a big fan of yours, just love the way you are..you rock suchitra
    tc 🙂

  3. Something to ponder about :

    That Girl In Yellow Boots is the story of a British girl Ruth’s search for her biological father in the noisy dispassionate chaos of Mumbai.

    It is also a film that marks the coming of age of Kalki Koechlin. Whether the Lolita-Chandramukhi in Dev D or Abhay Deol’s annoyingly upperclass girlfriend in Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, there was always something about that girl. And now we know what it is.

    In That Girl In yellow Boots Kalki takes us on a journey through her character Ruth’s outer and inner world in a way that very few protagonists have done in recent times.

    We see her distanced and detached from the lascivious clamour of Mumbai (captured in gloriously grating detail by Rajeev Ravi’s colourful camerawork). But in some weird and inexplicable way Ruth is also an integral part of the suburban chaos that repudiates her identity.

    Fighting off lewd advances in bureaucratic offices, giving ‘handshakes’ (read: handjobs) to customers in the massage parlour, dealing with a junkie boyfriend (Prashant Prakash, aptly cast) who refuses to be tied down (and we mean that literally) and confronting a Kannada gangster (Gulshan Devaiya), Ruth, as played by Kalki, is a splendid survivor.

    Emotionally battered and permanently bruised she emerges at the end as above the sickening chaos of peddlers, pimps, prostitutes and the other manifestations of Mumbai’s murky underbelly.

    The camera cruises Ruth’s places of pleasure and pain with the exploratory scupulousness of a voyager waiting to discover an unattainable Utopia. Ruth’s world is doomed. She is not.

    Anurag Kashyap has always shown a keen eye for dereliction. Here he swoops down on Ruth’s world of fringe existence. The ruthless rootless Mumbai is a world that neither accepts nor rejects her.

    The sequences in the massage parlour where she works illegally are the liveliest, thanks in no small measure to actress Puja Sarup playing the voluble parlour owner. She is a prized find, if for no other reason then for threatening to gouge out the mighty Naseeruddin Shah’s eyes.

    Oh yes, Naseeruddin Shah also drops in. And he’s a spot of sunshine in Ruth’s cold scheming universe. He is the only customer who treats Kalki with paternal affection. Fortified against any emotional attachment, her feelings bottled up and her inner world walled from hurt, Ruth rejects all attachment.

    All sorts of men drop in at at the parlour looking for “happy endings”, a euphemism for orgasms. There is no happy ending to Ruth’s story, though.

    Stranded in a world that she cannot own or even occupy, Ruth’s search for her father becomes a much larger metaphor for the search for roots that constantly takes us away from home in pursuit of dreams that do not have any logic relevance or even a basic link to reality.

    There are portions in the film that tend to get over-indulgent in their realism. The first time that the Kannada gangster visits Ruth’s place, he—and the sequence—overstay their welcome. The finale is a letdown.

    Ruth’s search for Daddy comes to a virtual deadend leaving us feeling as betrayed as Ruth. And does sex really work as a bargaining point for a young solitary sexy girl in ALL her professional dealings in an Indian city? (Come on, give the working-girl a break!)

    The questions have no easy answers. What remains with us are the deep fissures in the conscience that Anurag’s narration crystallizes by building a labyrinth of real characters played by interesting engaging actors in full-fledged and cameo parts.

    If you look hard you will see director Hansal Mehta and actor Rajat Kapoor in walk-on parts. Standing at the centre of of Kashyap’s volatile treatise on hope-on-dope, despair, love and its loss in the underbelly of the metropolis is Kalki Koechlin whose face is an effortless map of the human heart.

    As played by Kalki Ruth remains a cross between an enigma and a survivor, a fighter and manipulator, a victim and a vamp, a lady and a tramp.

    You may forget those yellow boots. But you will never forget the girl wearing them.

  4. who is this mirror?
    very interesting dissection without
    any surgery or bloodshed!
    we are compelled to take a peek at
    the Girl in yellow boots.
    I compliment mirror on the fine review!
    Hats off!

  5. when I was told that Suchitra knows him very well and she also said ‘I want to ring her up immediately and inform her about it’ I don’t know the person. But I feel bad; because it is not the age to die.Suchitra’s write up about him is very touching and expressive. May his soul rest in Peace

  6. I read the review of ‘Mirror’, the girl in yellow boots.I have not seen the film nor heard anything about it.Without knowing or seeing I cannot pass any remarks about the film. But the review is written in a very highflown language. That is not the modern way of writing English. Simplicity and lucidity are given more importance these days.Sorry I am a teacher and I couldn’t help it.

  7. I was enchanted by the review of The girl in yellow Boots.
    The writer appears to be a regular film critic.He(or is it a She)
    Knows his job and handles human emotions and behaviour
    with aplomb.He unravels the minds of the characters and
    vividly puts them up for our view in an inimitable way.
    He appears neither to like nor dislike the story or the way
    it has been filmed.He lifts us from our armchairs and takes
    us through the whole gamut without our sensing it.
    It is nicely written and smacks of honesty.
    I agree wit wiseacre.

  8. Suchitra needs to let go Jag’s memories

    I found an article that could help her as well as her independent selfish narrowminded woman admirers

    The Process of Change … Continuously Letting Go

    How many ways do we describe the process of change in our lives? From the perspective of counselling and psychotherapy we could name it as grief over the death of a loved one, the end of an intimate relationship or marriage, the shifting of careers or the end of one, having children, getting older, becoming ill, the betrayal of an affair, moving to another community, a spiritual crisis and many other life experiences. Even though all these experiences have their own powerfully unique emotions, meanings and felt-senses within, they also have something in common. These life moments are asking us to “let go” of something and to move toward something new. The letting go may be of a relationship, a behavior, a belief, a value or a connection to a place and people. It is asking us to “move” in a different way and direction in life. So why is it that we often struggle so fiercely with this natural process of constant change – the way of the universe?

    Through our lives we are often taught, infused or outright misled about the human experience – our experience. Especially in modern Western “culture”, the focus on the strong independent individual who strives for total control of her life is the reality model that is dominant and supported by most institutions and the mass media of our society. We are taught to value self-reliance, individual freedoms and rights, to produce and consume and to see the world through a compartmentalized, reductionist and disconnected lens. Through this lens, our world becomes smaller and smaller, we become more isolated and separate from the elements, plants, animals, other humans and the larger mystery of living and being. So any time we experience life events that challenge this view, it produces discomfort and suffering. The degree of this suffering is directly connected to our level of resistance to change – our attachment to the “old”. We are taught to fear death, the ultimate change and to avoid feeling our emotions fully and completely which is part of the natural process of letting go. This denial and repression of the real energies moving within us cause our attachment to things that are already changing or gone, yet we cling to something imagined, reminisced or unreal because of this fear.

    Yet, there is also a deep knowing within us that wants to let go, to free ourselves, to move in harmony with the forces of that great mystery. Our deep intuitive wisdom is still alive within us all, buried beneath the layers of misguided beliefs, emotional armor and old behaviors of how we are supposed to think, feel and act. There is a part of us that craves for that deeper connection to our internal integrity, authenticity and spirit. So how can we align ourselves with this bigger “knowing” while we go through a life change or even through a traumatic experience?

    Each person’s path will be unique. Can we allow ourselves to reach out and connect with others for help and support? Can we can accept that we are not in control of most things in our life and certainly not other people? Can we see and feel ourselves as part of something bigger and that this bigger force is moving us in a way that is unfathomable to our human minds? If we have faith that we can move with this bigger force – well then maybe during our “letting go” we will be able to feel our feelings with the support of the ground beneath our feet, the birds singing to us in the trees, the people connected to us and the energy of the mystery of life moving beside and aligned with us.

    How do we align ourselves with this bigger energy? First we need to listen. To listen, we need to find that speed limit and pace in our lives so that we can listen deeply to what is moving within and around us. To slow down, or in some cases speed up, so we can dim the mind chatter of fearful thoughts and listen to what our deeper self is trying to tell us; to hear the signal from the noise. Listening for the felt sense of your life which is present, in the moment and constantly changing instead of the static, limiting and often-times oppressive beliefs that keep us small. When we listen to and feel the constant change and movement within us we can then move in unison and alignment – like a highly attuned dance partner being lead and following blissfully. All we can do in “being danced” is to keep our feet and balance and move with grace and surrender along the way. We can go willingly or we can go kicking and screaming, but either way we are going!

    A few years ago I was in a life circumstance where I was not moving gracefully with that bigger energy. I was burnt out and dealing with compassion fatigue professionally and was living in an isolated community away from my usual supports and wellness/healthy lifestyle pursuits. I was struggling physically and emotionally. Old rigid beliefs that dictated “life is hard work” and “you have to keep helping people even if you don’t have the energy” and “you can’t leave this community/profession” until you secure something else back in Victoria” kept me in suffering despite intense messages from my body, heart and spirit. It was only until my “grip” could no longer clench onto those old ways, due to exhaustion, was I forced to let go. From that moment on I learned in a deeply felt way to listen to the gentler and more subtle messages from within and have faith in them. Since that acceptance occurred my life has flowed with more ease, gentleness and compassion to myself and others in a sustainable way. By letting go and accepting the energy that is moving all of us, things have flowed to me with more and more ease. The more I let go, the easier it came.

    We cannot stop or control this big dance, it will take us regardless. Letting go of the illusion that we are in control of our lives can be a very freeing first step of our dance. All we can do is learn how to move in step with it.

  9. Something more on crisis,transformation and change

    “People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them,” writes Greek philosopher Epictetus.

    We either choose to be ‘victims of our fate’ or we rise above it. We either look for the ‘silver lining’, the ‘blessing in disguise’, the ‘opportunity for growth,’ or we continue to feel like our situation really, totally and justifiably ‘sucks.’

    The Dalai Lama says, “Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” We all know of people who’ve lost their dream only to find that something better was around the corner, if not immediately, then eventually. A Course in Miracles says, “All things work together for good. There are no exceptions except in the ego’s judgment.” Often letting go of our judgments and learning to trust the process are the most important lessons .

    Consider our obsession with sensational news, reality TV shows, and thriller movies, like The Dark Night, which recently broke all records at the box office. It’s just when change affects us personally that we fear and resist it. Nobody wants to lose anything they value: health, wealth, job, loved ones, etc. So when we do, it’s understandable to blame it on. But do we really need another scapegoat for our woes?I mean, in addition to the boss who fired us, or the husband who left us? This article explores different perspectives .

    A variety of difficulties are likely to occur: pursuits resulting in disappointment, losses of things you value, etc. You don’t need to be creating negative karma at the time. Bad things can happen to nice people, due to their past, unseen karma.

    It’s our attitude about change that’s important. Our happiness is internally based, not externally. “People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them,” writes Greek philosopher Epictetus in the 1st century B.C. That is our choice, moment to moment. We either choose to be ‘victims of our fate’ or we rise above it. We either look for the ‘silver lining’, the ‘blessing in disguise’, the ‘opportunity for growth,’ or we continue to feel like our situation really, totally and justifiably ‘sucks.’

    Blessings in Disguise

    If we don’t look beyond our surface frustrations to the depths of our life lessons we’re missing the greatest gift of the spiritual transformation. It takes us to our edge where transformation and rebirth are just on the other side of despair and death. It’s a house of transition from one state to the next. Its role is not just to create upheaval that leaves us in a sobbing heap on the floor, but to liberate us. The destructive principle of tamas paves the way for new creation (rajas), just as compost provides fertile soil for new seeds to grow.

    Just like compost takes time to transform from waste, the blessing that the transformation invariably gives, may take time to be revealed. A rebirth is guaranteed following any kind of death, but there may be a gestation period. The Dalai Lama says, “Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” We all know of people who’ve lost their dream only to find that something better was around the corner, if not immediately, then eventually. A Course in Miracles says, “All things work together for good. There are no exceptions except in the ego’s judgment.” Often letting go of our judgments and learning to trust the process are the most important lessons of crisis.

    Slaying our Demons

    The change of an external situation, like transitioning from a job or marriage, are obvious kinds of transformation but what about spiritual, inner transformation? It’s where we face our demons and slay them. Our demons are our compulsions, obsessions, phobias, and fears, with death being the ultimate fear. This is our psychological baggage.

    We slay our demons by facing them and making them conscious. The great psychologist Carl Jung said, “Whatever is not conscious will be experienced as fate.” Just like history tends to repeats itself, we’re doomed to repeat our personal history until we learn from our mistakes. Therefore, it’s valuable to take the time for reflection during the transitional periods of the 8th house, so we can learn from our past. “Where the wound is, is also where the gift is,” says Sobonfu Somé.When we take the time to dive for those pearls we are able to transform our lives the most.

    A crisis is the most potent time for transformation, because it’s during a transition that new seeds are sown. Albert Einstein said, “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” However, making a major shift, especially inner, is not easy. After all, we’re creatures of habit, and usually defend against changing them .

    When we’re going though intense change it can be helpful to think of the wheel of samsara or illusion as being an actual wheel. The closer we get to the center or hub the less spinning actually takes place. This is why meditation and spiritual practices are so important because they pull us back into the peaceful center of our beings so we can stop spinning out with our minds. The way out is in.

    In Marianne Williamson’s book, The Gift of Change, she says, “The most important thing to remember during times of great change is to fix our eyes anew on the things that don’t change. Eternal things become our compass during times of rapid transition, binding us emotionally to a steady and firm course.” This is similar to the motion sickness you feel the movement but you are not able to see it and the best ways to treat it is to simply look out of the window of the moving vehicle and to gaze toward the horizon in the direction of travel. This helps to re-orient the inner sense of balance by providing a visual reaffirmation of motion.
    or through the worst way of napping: Napping also helps prevent psychogenic effects (i.e. the effect of sickness being magnified by thinking about it).

    In Paramahansa Yogananda’s classic book, The Autobiography of a Yogi, he writes about his meeting with Anandamayi Ma in his chapter entitled, ‘The Joy-Permeated Mother.’ He asks her, “Please tell me something of your life.” She replied,

    “Father, there is little to tell. My consciousness has never associated itself with this temporary body. Before I came on this earth, Father, I was the same. I grew into womanhood, but still I was the same. When the family in which I had been born made arrangements to have this body married, I was the same. And Father, in front of you now, I am the same. Even afterwards, though the dance of creation changes around me in the hall of eternity, I shall be the same.”

    This is one of quotes valuable to remember when we’re going through major transitions in our lives, or counseling someone else who is.

    It’s easy to jump to negative conclusions . No experienceis all malefic or benefic, and therefore can’t be summed up as simply good or bad. It’s always a mixed blessing, just like the material world is a mixture of the three gunas.

  10. Nice trIibute to jagmohan mundhra. May his soul rest in peace. Provoked was a good movie-one of aishwarya rais best performances
    Wiseman while your amateur anaylysis is intereting it is totally out of context and not relevant to this article at all
    Half baked knowledge is dangerous

  11. I just put them because the whole world is going through a period of change/transition/transformation………… May be someone finds it useful

  12. today i feel sad not because of jag mundra ,who was just obsessed with making erotic films,passing away but because the Gandhi of technology/ipod/ipads ,,,Steve Jobs passing away..

    I dont have connections to either ………but feel more sad for jobs than jag m

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