India’s got talent
This is a very personal blog. But i have to say it as i think and feel it because I am like that only.
If it was not for the fact that Shekhar Kapur was a judge on the new show that launched this weekend on colours channel and the fact that a fellow gymmer had not asked me if he is my husband when i heard his interview last morning on the radio when i was pounding on the treadmill it would not have been bought to my attention. I dont watch television at all.
“Ex husband” i told my fellow gymmer with a polite smile as i upped my speed to an 8.5 and increased my laborious slow jog to a canter. “We are divorced” i said tersely
“But i have seen him around here often..especially around the swimming pool” my fellow gymmer said looking a bit puzzled:”He dosent live here? oh i thought…”
I ignored him and increased my canter to a run. I have recently moved to a new apartment of my own with Kaveri-my 8 year old -that has a pool and a gym in the complex
“He comes over to spend time with his daughter” i said through jagged breath as i increased my speed to a 9 on the treadmill and my canter became a frantic run .I ignored my fellow gymmer during the rest of my exercise regimen. Though i am naturally a very social person I hate nosey parkers. He got the message and i could finish my workout in silence
Then kaveri’s friend saw the ad in the paper annoucing the new show “India’s got talent” on colours-front page of Bombay times- and called her to tell her that her daddy is on a show on TV saturday night.
So Kaveri got excited . She decided that she wants to spend her night with her daddy as he is in town-because he is rarely in town and they can watch the show together. I agreed happily. I am maidless(i fired my maid 4 days ago after i discovered her trying to leave my home on a two hour leave with two suitcases full of loot from my home right from Pashmina shawls to prada overcoats to crystal to gold, to utensils bedsheets, upholstery and what not. Just as a warning if any of you have someone called Surekha Wadkar knocking on your door looking for employment-BEWARE. She is a theif-i subsequently found out that she had seduced both my drivers and both of them wanted to marry her-they thought she was such a sweet honest girl! One of my drivers was preparing to leave his wife and poor kids for this maid and has gone into a speechless shock since the revelation of her true nature-especially because he didnt know that the other driver was thinking exactly the same! Last few days both of them have been telling me I am a devi for discovering the truth!!
I like that! i so like that 
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Anyway the reason i am writing this blog is not to tell you about my domestic woes or the fact that i am flattered that my drivers think i am a devi or that the last 2 days i have been in and out of Oshiwara Police station, but, because after so many years and all the water that flowed under the bridge-when i saw the show “India’s got talent”i knew i was reconnecting with the Shekhar Kapur i met and fell i love with as a 19 year old college student so many many years ago.
The man i couldnt wait to talk to over the phone(this was in the days before mobile phones when i used to call him from the public phone in college or wait till my parents were asleep to use the home phone. ). The man i longed to meet hold and touch. The man i loved with my whole heart and soul and subsequently married a couple of years down the line.Even though he begged me to understand that marraige was not the answer to love-warned me that marraige would destroy the freedom that two artistic souls yearn for. I was too young and too conservative in thought to understand. I never even thought of myself as an artist. Though he already knew. I told him that I am a good girl from a good family-if he didnt want marraige I would never see him again. He told me he didnt want to lose me. And so we married.
The man who gave me the most beautiful gift in the world-my daughter Kaveri.
The man who over the years became a stranger to me as i became a stranger to him.The man who hurt me as much as i apparently hurt him-it takes two hands to clap after all. Our shastra’s have an apt word for it “its called Grahasti ” Its the trap of the household.
Our destinies were intertwined. Though different. We didnt know it then. Or maybe Shekhar knew it even then-he even warned me. But he understood the fact that home and hearth is what i wanted and i would not have it any other way. And so we married and subsequently we divorced. In both instances he respected my point of view completely-when it was marraige i wanted its what he gave me. When it was divorce i wanted-he gave me that too
Its been two years now and I have put my past life behind me. Hardly ever think about it unless forced to or provoked
And this time i am provoked. By what i saw on televison On “India’s got talent” that night. Provoked and moved by the honesty, the warmth, the sensitivity and the sense of humour that i had lost touch with. Forgotten all about. The kindness and humaneness of the man i once loved more than anything in the world.. I cried when Shekhar cried, and laughed when he did. The tears in his eyes when he saw the 7 or 8 year old handicapped girl and asked her to keep dancing made me weep. His barks and mews made me laugh till my stomach ached
I knew the old Shekhar was back-the same man who gave the world Masoom and Mr India and Bandit Queen and Elizabeth. The man i met and loved as a young college girl and knew in one glance that he was my destiny
The man that i beleive i lost to the devil in the subsequent cource of my marraige-the devil that has many names and faces. Its not just one person or thing or the other
I called Shekhar up in excitement after i watched the show and said “How sad that its too late for us, but I’m so glad to finally have you back-the way my heart always told me you are. I gave up on my marraige-but i never gave up on you”
Sometimes reality comes to us in the form of entertainment.
Is that sad or is it true?
Suchitra this post made me cry. In the public eye your names-yours and shekhars will always be intertwined, regardless of all the names that have ever come in between you’ll.
God bless you and give you all the happiness and love that you truly deserve
It’s never too late.
TRUTH IS TERRIBLE
Is that not the tagline of the film your acting in -Rann?
Kabhi Haan Kabhi naan
My wifes murder etc etc. Somehow your films seem to have a connection with your life. In kilukaampetti(malayalm film opposite superstar Jayaram you played a single mother)
I read an interview of jennifer Anniston recently and she said that all her film titles have an uncanny resemblance to her life-wether it is the break up or good girl etc
anyway-i enjoy what you write and your acting too. keep going.
‘India nas got talent’ Where is the doubt about it? The greatest talent you are blessed with is your EXPRESSION. First blog in which you have written something sensible.God is great.
WOW you have a way with words…quite a nostalgic n emotional post…
Suchitra, this is such a wonderful, honest post! Loved reading it, and thank you for writing something this lovely.
What a beautiful post.
India’s got talent is a nice show. I watched it too this weekend.
It is nice to read your blog on your life’s vagaris.
Both you and shekhar kapur are very decent human
beings and artists of note in your own right.Let us hope
Kaveri reunites you in the not distant future.
It is worthy of note that neither of you have developed
a fondness or bond with any other person.
GOD IS GREAT!
Yes suchitra u have done the right thing. I somehow think he was just not ready for marriage, but he wanted u.. as is the case with most men… they want ur soul, feelings & BODY but don’t want to be there 24X7 for u, to take full responsibilities of urself, to be there in and out with you in all ur ups n downs in life and mainly be committed towards ONLY U. They want you just for some moments when they feel down, Only when all others have their back towards them, only to get some comforting words and to get the care from you, without they being required to give that same warmth back to you whenever u require it the most but only when they think it suitable for them to give it to u. U have done the right thing Suchitra. As for his breaking down, it was quite obvious, even I was crying seeing the kids perform.. Many 1000’s might have cried seeing the effort of that troupe. Its quite humane to cry, if a person is unmoved at such a sight then may be he is not alive.!!!
As for his meows n barks, as one of my friend pointed out rightly and which has now our college talking is that it was very mean of that old man to bark like that. Ofcourse he wanted to impress the audience by seeming cool but it wud have been much better if he had used his own wits for the purpose rather then making use of someone’s meekness for the act. That particular candidate from Jaipur might have been aspiring to go to the next level. She might have had high expectations, so might have her parents and friends who may be watching her perform. Now its true, not all can win, its ok but atleast shekar shud have had the courtesy to tell her a sweet no or if he don’t have any sweetness in him (as is obvious from this post, a person who is not ready to donn the responsibilites of a husband but wanted a wife anyway) then atleast he shud have said a blunt NO. It was very illogical and bad on his part to bark and meow and make fun of some candidate in front of a live audience sitting over there, in addition to the full nation who might be watching it on TV. He didn’t care what the candidate may go thru, who alongwith the failure of not making it further into the show will now have to bear the brunt of his jokes as well. It was so inhumane:(.. That candidate might have practiced in and out, might have taken blessings from her parents and elders. She might have had that feeling in her of being successful and all this crashing wud have been too painful and his silly antics might be soooo soooo hard for her to take. Even u are a girl. Juz imagine if you were called in for some audition of singing and if you are not selected then its ok, you may feel sad but not out.. but if those persons taking your auditions start mocking at you, start mimicking you.. HOW WUD U FEEL ABOUT IT.??? and that too when a live audience is watching you and which is going to be telecasted on TV which will be watched by your critics and well-wishers alike.. If that artiste was told politely that she was not upto the mark right now, but she needs to practice a bit, then it wud have been fine wit the jury, the show and the candidate as well, as she might have thought that she needs to practice a bit more. If she might have been told that it was good enough but not upto the mark in this event, she wud have had something to cheer about as to getting a word of praise from someone of the calibre of juries sitting over there. A polite no, wud have been ok with her too, as she wud have thought to herself if not this show then some other show… but now, all of us think that she might be too skeptic to even try at any more auditions, any more shows after being shown the door in this way.. Even she may have to face the brunt of her critics n ill-wishers who may never let her forget what was the reaction to her performance.. All this was unwanted for and there was no need, neither provocation to do so.. A jury is someone whome a candidate sees as a God who may help her/him to either correct him/her in his/her flaws or guide her/him to the next step.. Though we galz of today don’t know much about shekar, as hardly his films release nowadays, but we always had a high esteem for him in likes of some inspiration stuff but this particular incident showed his calibre.
I am not sure whether this particular post will be posted or not, most probably it will be deleted. But my only intention was to bring this point in front of you. U have read this post, its enough, its serves its purpose quite well.:). As for the devi stuff. I agree u r a devi but not for those stupid drivers but infact for their kids who had almost lost the support of their father for the rest of their lives, if not for u..
Finally I wud like to say that u had made a perfect decision whether it was ur marriage or ur divorce. It takes guts to do both:) if sumone else were in ur place then she wud have found it impossible to refrain from agreeing to a big figure like Shekar, while he wud have had access easily. U have done the right thing by insisting for marriage (and hence recognisation to a holy relation) and it shows your courage, ur upbringing and the importance of values in ur life. Never think u have done a wrong decision, U HAVE NOT. People will always know you as wife of shekar, unmindful of what happens in future, a thing which else would never have been known. At the same time its even true that you are known as Suchitra by your own identity. U don’t require any God-fathers and I still remember how much I enjoyed your album ‘dum tara’ while in school.:). U were our pop star. Our role-model. Plz. come out with a new album soon. We are waiting…
I once met Shekhar jee at Goa film festival.
It was a few seconds meet and my question to him was : What is LOVE ?
He said – Love is a mystery.
I had a wish to meet him again.
Few days back I saw him in black mercedez. I wish one day we meet again. There are only few film-makers & person whom I look upto. He is one of them.
I salute.
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greeshma! the jurors r doing a job.their loose talk is only
to be more friendly and make the candidate comfortable.it
is wrong to assume that they make fun of a candidate.
they r not reponsible if a candidate gets too slf conscious.
it is a learning platform for the candidate.
Wellwisher i agree with you
Greeshma’s comments are way off the mark-there is no need to get so personal about celebrities-
if one enters a competion at a national level judged by world class celebrities surely they should have the sense to put up something of some standard. Otherwise they should stay at home and have their parents and elders praise them-
I agree wit greeshma. Judges have a right to refuse and say no. They have no right whatsoever to humilate a candidate.
Any sane person with a touch of feeling would know that it was wrong. Even we discussed it in our office the next day, though we r neither fans of shekar kapoor, nor that unknown participant from jaipur. But it was sheer humilation and greeshma has put up a nice thought. Don’t worry greeshma, its not only u students who feel like that, we ppl. in grey hairs do feel the same too.
GOD Bless…!!.
regular visiter 2 dis blog, but commenting 4 da first time. Reason??? It has a debate going on which was da topic being discussed in our friend circle on monday in our college canteen as well. I totally agree wit greeshma and others. da judges needed 2 b more mature while dealing with candidates. As siddharth rightly stated, they have been authorized n tey r ter only 2 select candidates. Tey hve no means to be MEAN n even if tey do so, tey r projecting their own level. Sonali was there wit dignity, the decision was conveyed to the candidate n thus no harm to the show. Kiron kher had buzzed on start but she told tat candi. 2 continue, tat was grace. Shekar juz howled, wit no provocation as greeshma rightly stated, tat was cheap. Greeshma u r rite, don’t worry abt other comments as sum ppl. over here wud alwayz tow da line of celebrities come what may, u can read da comments by da very same ppl on the post ” The 5 am wake up call” in tis very site. U’ll know 4 urslf how some ppl juz stick wit da celebrities cum wat may, eventhough tey may not b knowing a thing n tey don’t even have their facts right as well, all dis juz 2 impress da celebrities. Pathetic!!.
Oh my god! Why do we have a tendency to seem so holier-than thou! Ms. Greeshma… Shekhar does not have a Saint in front of his name. His name is Shekhar Kapur not Saint Shekhar!
He is a normal human being! He has every right to yell, scream, bark, meow, do cartwheels when happy and cry when sad!
Just one question for you… Have you never bitched, made fun of somebody, lied or committed any petty “sin”! No? Ok then you win… Please send us your address…We will ask the holy church to canonize you and call you Saint Greeshma! Happy?
Scout likes it! Scout likes it very much!
Is it rude to ask whether you might consider giving him a second chance?
Its always said that the devil and angel sit on one shoulder each! That’s why when we try to make a decision we hear two or more voices. One is of the angel and one of the devil! I guess Shekhar’s angel’s voice is louder now and the devil is on vacation!
Its your choice and decision as to what you would like to do about any relationship in your life! You dont have to answer anyone if you will want to give it a shot again!
Its better to be with a known devil than an unknown angel
)))
Scout
Dont you think that would be very foolish on Suchitra’s part?
Dunno’..Maybe yes maybe no!
I guess what happens between two people and the truth between them is always best known by the two involved ONLY..
So I guess whatever Suchitra decides will be based on her knowledge of the past and her expectations of the future!!
It should not matter to any of us because at the end of the day she is the one who has to live with her choice. She is very level headed but maybe the creative adventurer in her might advice her something else…
She too will have the angel and devil on her shoulders
I laughed out that day seeing the show, but now after reading all the stuff over here, really convinced that Greeshma is damn right man. Something which we never thought of. All have hearts and they shouldn’t be treated like animals. Should have shown some respect. Feeling guilty for having laughed out aloud that night seeing the barking of shekar kapoor. Greeshma is right, nisha is wrong. That was not right:(..
Wow an excellent post well complimented by some great comments. Some truely ‘real’ points made and so can’t resist from posting one myself.:)
As for the personal life of shekar and suchitra, I think we have no rights to comment or preach them. Both are sensible adults and know to lead their life. We should respect both of them as they both are self made personalities. Now as for the title of the blog “India’s got talent” goes, the issue discussed over here can be commented at as its a public programme and we all have a voice of our own.
Here I think, I am in the same boat as pritam is. I had seen both the episodes over weekend, but didn’t realize that thing at that time. Somehow it never clinked, but here reading the comments by many, I really side with siddharth. All said and done, jury should have some ethics and they should do their duty of either selecting or rejecting the candidates. I would add one step more that they should do so in such a manner that the rejected candidates don’t feel demoralized but they should understand that they are not selected here due to some other better perfomances then theirs and they should be given hope and encouragement so that they can always do better in future. As one of the commenters here, Ms. Disha, rightly stated that Sonali Bendre and Kiran Kher did their job quite well, that is expected from a judge of a reality show. Shekar Kapoor was absolutely wrong in mimicking an artiste in bad taste, insulting her in the process. As for the question that even judges are human, and they have a right to laugh n cry.. well fine.. but as was obvious this was not at all spontaneous but it was delibrately done in order to gain some applause for himself at the cost of some innocent artist’s tears. Apart from that, judges should know to shoulder responsibilites which are given to them. If they can’t do that, then they are unfit as judges because these are not things which one can’t control, it just requires some compassion, some warmth and a little bit respect towards others (no matter how small that person is). Its Terribly wrong. It should also be borne in mind, that the troupe which performed that balancing act, having all family members in that group, which was applauded greatly by all is a proffessional group and is doing this feat for many years whereas most of the candidates (like the one insulted by Shekhar kapoor) was just a rookie. I personally feel that people have become so sick nowadays that they drown their frustations in tears of someone else. They can’t succeed themselves so they seek solace in seeing others being humilated as is obvious by some of the posts in here. But the end point is all are free to have their own assumptions of what is right and what is wrong. The debate is unending. As for my personal opinion, I am with the majority over here and I support the notion that jury should be more sensible and responsible on stage and if they can’t shoulder that responsibilty they should quit.
Well said abhishek. totally agree wit u.:)
i think when a particpant enters a nationwide contest he or she should be prepared for anything. overcoming rejection is the 1st step to success.
Most successful people have learnt to overcome great deal of rejection and humiliation before they have found their feet. When the going gets touch-the tough get going
Suchitra has very clearly said in her opening sentence that the blog is a very personal thing.When she was watching the show she must have gone back in her life and saw the Shekhar who was her heart throb once.She got totally involved in the show and started enjoying and reminiscing the days she spent with Shekhar who was her fascination in her life .Immediately after the show was over, she called him in excitement and shared her joy and appreciation verbatim.as she saw the same innocence and child like qualities in him once again.The concluding sentence’ I gave upon my marriage but I never gave up0n you’ brought tears in my eyes.Instead of commenting upon her excellent style of writing and expression and wishing her well for her future life, some have very cheaply commented upon Shekhar Kapur’s way of behaviour which has no reference any where is absolutely uncalled for.The blog’s comments should have been on Suchitra’s expressins and feelings.Sheer envy has made them write such nasty and high handed comments, that too in ‘butler English’. Shekhar’s effort was to ease the situation and bring some life in the atmosphere.If you don’t like the show, don’t watch.Don’t write mean and cheap comments.
Lol after watchin a couple of parts on youtube i felt that this show would not last long !! Look at the way the acts are being performed sme are nt worth the watch n the comments of the judges add to it ! but u cant blame the judjes cos if u just say a polite “NO” that can be done by any1 !! n these judges are bein paid for to say a NO and YES hence they make it seem like out of the box “NO”
I felt Shekar was tryin to be the more like “Simon Cowell” the judge in American Idol, UK’s got talent !! who try to be the mocky kind n trys to give sme comments that put the performer in an embazin situation !!
Lets see hw the show goes !! n Suchitra did Cuveri like Daddy’s comments ?? wat is she sayin let us knw!
n to RJV !!
RJV u hv no rite to ” Don’t write mean and cheap comments.”
Even one has their views n every one has their right to express their views !! If u read the post of Shiney topic u can see that Pooja has given it back to Suchitra for her comments !! But it never stopped Suchitra from havin the post in her site n she even replied back … tht she would back wat she had posted !!
so its mearly ppl thoughts u wann praise Suchitra u do it !! lol but u dont have to say that some one is wrong in criticizing Shekar !!
lol its all a part of the game if u dont wann read such posts its ur wish but ppl will post wat they wann!!
Thanks for ur understanding !! RJV !!
Absolutely right. Rjv is one of those chaps who willn’t see any mistake in any celebrity. They will try to appease them for reasons unknown to mankind. They will compel people to be a part in their drive of feet licking of celebrities without even giving a thought into the matter. For ppl. like them celebrity is God and all other ppl. are inferior in front of them. Even when so many people are saying their mind out, not only here in this blog but in many other discussion forums like rediff etc. When everywhere ppl. are thinking the same thing that it was unwarranted and not required for shekar to humilate a candidate when other judges had already conveyed the thing to the candidate, who had humbly accepted that her performance was not enough to take her forward in the show. It was sheer sheer sheer overacting by shekar @ the cost of some innocent candidate’s feelings. Any person of his calibre n stature would have surely told that gal, where she lacked and where she needed practice and would have encouraged her that she can practice more and try her luck again in season 2 or something. But that chap didn’t think it right. He started howling and barking and by all means he had succeeded in completely demoralizing an aspiring candidate. Such ppl. can be brought to task, and they may sure be told by the television channel itself not to behave that way (though behind curtains) as many discussion forums are discussing the same thing. SHEKAR KAPOOR WAS WRONG IN HUMILATING A CANDIDATE. HIS JOB WAS EITHER TO SELECT OR REJECT A PERSON. HE HAD NO RIGHTS WHAT SO EVER TO HUMILATE AND DEMORALIZE A CANDIDATE AND THAT TOO WHEN THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NO NEED FOR IT. THIS IS A FACT AND IT WILL REMAIN A FACT AND IT’S ALREADY THE TALK OF TOWN. PEOPLE HAVE SEEN IT, ARE DISCUSSING IT AND MANY HATE MAILS MAY BE GOING TO COLOUR CHANNEL AS WELL. THEY WILL HAVE TO TELL THEIR JUDGES TO BE DIGNIFIED IF THEY WANT TO PRESENT THEIR TALENT HUNT IN A GOOD TASTE AND I AM SURE THEY WILL DO SO FOR THEIR OWN BENEFIT THOUGH.
As for ppl. like Rjv there is no cure, neither any one cares what they blabber about and general sane public will continue discussing the topic and speak their mind out while ppl. like rjv may be busy licking ***** belonging to celebrities. I was really laughing reading Rjv’s comment stating ppl. r envy of Shekar.. hey rjv envy of what??? tat he has butler fans like u.??..
lol lol well said Vishal !!
RJV does not even hav the guts to bring out his/her real name !! then we can imagin wat reality is their in that post of their’s ….. RJV …fake ppl with a fake attitude tryin to take side of sme over reactin celebrity in a show which does not require such comments we are all humans n mistakes happen …. n everyone does deserve a second chance be polite to ppl shekar …. i am sure he will get the message as India’s got talent show producers will convey this to him !! he may be good or bad personally it does nt matter to any of us but thts a show tht deserves sme respect n the ppl particpatin also do they may b doin stupid things but the judges need not loose their cool !!
Yep, heart wrenching especially with a child, I’mno m sure. Sometimes, I think women tend to ignore the warning signs. In your situation at the very beginning it looks like you both had diffferent ideas. Being in the public eye makes your predicament more difficult than the rest of the folk who have faced similar outcomes. However, you can use this to speak out and vent unlike the rest of them. Way to go and be not afraid of malicious people who claim that what you say is bogus!
I see people go overboard in commenting.although i missed the original show i watched it accidentally
when it was telecast a second time.I had already read the criticism of shekhar
made in this blog.shekhar.s imitation was no mockery.he was telling the
candidate indirectly that he could also bark and there was no special talent
in the barking candidate.he did it in a humorous way as if the jurors and the candidates
belonged to the same family.candidates who participate are normal people
and they should not be in doubt as to where they stand in respect of
their talent. Do you expect the juror to stand up and say “candidate you don’t
qualify.Next one please come forward, and then collapse in his or her seat?
please have a sense of humour urself.otherwise,go and wipe the tear of every loser
Hey everyone.
I request you to please keep the nature of the discussion friendly and not abuse each other.
Also please try to avoid sms lingo-short forms and abreviations. In a blog clear communication is the key- without which things can be misunderstood(Suha -please take note)
Vishal-Your views are welcome-but abusive and bad language is not.
I future i will be forced to delete these comments.
Cheers
Sorry Suchitra, I never meant to write those words, but was prompted by a fellow commentor who was trying to belittle the comment of some one else not on the basis of its contents but only because that person’s english was not upto the mark. Though I felt it was good enough for any educated person to understand it. So it was clear to me that, that chap, as Suha pointed out– may be a fake, and was hell bent on proving his point without giving any concrete debatable stuff but instead crying wolf by making illogical statements like people are envious of shekar and thats why writing all these comments. Apart from that, he was also taking out his grudge on some other person, who had written his heart out, what he felt but what rjv didn’t want to read. So I was just tempted to blurt out inorder to tell all that if needed all can talk in the same language and its not that any one doesn’t know to indirectly hurt the person writing comments over here, but all can do the same if required. The only thing is that this is a nice blog though visited it for the first time via google, may be it was shown in the result because of the title of this blog as was searching ‘India got talent’ on google… and inspite of all this, that chap rjv says that people are discussing the wrong topic, they shudn’t discuss anything here about ‘India got Talent’ which is the title of this very blogpost.. but instead they should discuss things about the personal life of two mature adults. If not for some very good sensible comments by people like abhishek, Disha, Alwyn d’souza etc. people would have ceased coming to this blog because people like rjv (and some others) are a huge turnoff from even reading the comments wherein they will just behave like an old frog in a deserted well and will stick to their point without debating the stuff out. They will even start getting personal by commenting needlessly on fellow commentor’s vocabulary or any petty stuff, may be in a frantic effort to divert the attention from the main topic, WHICH WILL NEVER BE THE CASE. In our office yesterday, this topic was being discussed and I will tell you Suchitra that 90% of the people, who come from various caste and community and who have varying tastes, are non-supportive of the gesture unleashed by Shekar kapoor. Its the same scenario in every discussing forum in every portal carrying this topic. We don’t have anything personal against Shekar, neither we hate him for anything. The only point of discussion over here is that —’whether it was suitable for a man of his calibre, to mock at an aspiring candidate when there was absolutely no need for doing so. As this is a talent hunt of India, it was expected that judges will be more warm in their approach. No one requires them to be sentimental or partial and no one wants that they select candidates who are even an iota less then the standards required to go to the next level. But atleast they should have some concern towards the feelings of every person. They will lose nothing by giving a word of encouragement to candidates who fail. They will lose nothing if they tell the losing candidate what is their flaw and why they couldn’t make it to the next round. But definitely that small gesture of theirs will inspire those candidates to perform better the next time or to eliminate the flaws which caused their ouster this time’ —People are airing their views at all blogposts which carry similar title or topic and this is no exception. The judges in some reality show in some ‘firangi nations’ may have become an instant hit with such gimmicks and if these judges want to hit high copying them, then India is still a very much a family oriented country where families tend to see such programmes while having dinner togather. India is still a country which has heart ruling over brains and such things will not pass off unnoticed and the only way the judges may hit is downwards, if they don’t change their tactics. I am sure if a poll is conducted over here too, the result will be clear.. how many people approve of this and how many people disapprove of this, without having the need to debate. Once again sorry Suchitra if I had been rude. It was purely unintentional. Finally krishnaveniji I wud like to state that all in our age do have a very good sense of humour but there is time and occasion and platform for everything. A person can be humorous in lunch time with his colleagues, a person can be humorous at times when he is with his friends and girl friend. But you can’t expect a person to be humorous when he is attending a meeting, a very important one. The judges in this contest, no matter how humorous they are, should be compassionate and warm while dealing with the candidate. If they have to laugh they can but when among themselves. That is no way to be humourous to laugh and howl on face of a candidate already reeling under the sadness of rejection from the contest. Have some heart dear. Its like one of your (humorous) proffessors laughing out aloud on your face, mimicking the way you read… when you get your examination result with you failing badly in it.:) Grow up. And please give your address, as per your wish, I am coming to wipe your tear.. lolz.
Stumbled onto this blogpost. The comments over here are more interesting then the posted topic itself:P. The last entry by vishal had me in splits:D. The point was conveyed very precisely and in good spirit. True too. U write quite well Vishal, do u have a blog of your own.? If yes you should have placed a link alongwith your comments, or you can still do so.
My vote goes this way. It was wrong on part of judges to demoralize a candidate when a normal NO would have been more than sufficient. Cheers.!!!!
n ya to all the blogers who never knew wat LOL means…
lol ” Laughing Out Loud ”
n Suchitra as i see it is being used by many blogers …. never though it was a sms lingo
To cut the full discussion short.. due to paucity of time.. I will come directly to the point.. after reading all the comments my honest personal opinion is this discussion forum is very lively and most of the people here are giving in nice sensible comments.. though some can’t digest it.. My say is >>> it was wrong on Shekar’s part to act so immaturely by mocking at some participant who had come in good faith. Rejection was ok… HUMILATION WAS NOT.
Nice Discussion. My vote goes for Vishaal. He is right. I feel the same.
Well the real talent is within that needs no judges, no certificates, no appreciation at all. The real talent is ‘Bliss’. Once you have it, you never care to show and get judged by anyone. How funny these things look and of course the judges far funnier!
Hi Kamlesh,
This post of mine is personally and exclusively referred to you and I wish all others can blissfully stay away from any reaction(s).
Kudos Man! You are absolutely true. One may put up one’s talent(s) on show to entertain the subjects and receive an applause. The applause itself is a ‘tribute’ paid to the effort of the performer for entertaining the subjects. Here, the operational phenomenon is ‘Joy in doing…Joy in sharing the joy by doing…Joy by receiving back the joy that has been shared by doing’. I wish you got my point.
Bliss is a state of the soul that is only bothered about ‘doing’,but not ‘happening’. Life is a very simple logic…One can do what one wants to do and and in that doing lies all the happiness. But if one wishes to translate that doing into a ‘happening’ then comes the judges and the judgements around. Let me explain the most intricate nature of ‘Judgement’.
To ‘Judge’ is to ‘Conclude’ and ‘Conclusion’ is ‘Death’, which is ‘Anti-bliss’. Since the true nature of the soul is to be in a perennial state of unalloyed bliss it definitely cannot accept judgements.
Ofcourse, its a totally different issue when talents are mistaken as competencies only to nurture the ego and look other people down as we often see in Bollywood and some other local ‘woods’ in our country.
Hey you just made me cry…
I recall while I am recovering from my surgery, “This One Is The Last” you told me over the phone, which truly moved me and encourged me to see through the immense pain I was going through. During the first two days of my surgery I wondered if this will ever heal, I thought I was sinking, but time is the best healer I guess. I am much better now:)… thank you for your wishes.
Am sure you would have tried several times to revive your relationship and save your marriage in many years of courtship with Shekhar. If it didn’t work then, It won’t work now. You have moved on long ago… Digging the wound only hurts… and I hope “This One Is The Last”
I Love You very much.. Tc
Dear Suchitra, Why would you hurt your dear ones, to whom you hold so gently with both your hands? How could you drop the things you love most in the world? I read your blog, but I didnt cry!! it just gave me feeling, how the things could change drastically, the life gets twisted and there have been a lots of questions coming in mind which has no perfect answer. Why people realize mistake when it becomes too late? Really sad to know, two hearts broke up!!
God bless u,
alibaba
Suchitra you have a way with words. I have to confess that reading this bought tears to my eyes
I was in Sydenham college same time as you though you probably wont remember. I even sent you a rose on rose day. You were a star then even in college, everybodys sweetheart-who can forget you singing “woman in Love” . Its a song that i always associate with you, even so many years later..
I was deeply saddened when i read all the muck about you in the newspapers in the years that followed the breakup of your marraige. I am glad that you are finally putting things behind you and spreading positivity and love once again-the way i always remember you. I hope you get back to your music soon
God bless you and your daughter Kaveri. I have seen pictures of her and she is a splitting image of you.
Well said. This is how a comment should be written if one really understands the spirit with which it is written Not something irrelevant going off the subject. Keep it up. God Bless you.
Hmmm i guess you both can get back together. Not to make the word cliche true but for the sake creativity, tenderness and beauty itself!
You need to learn how to spell believe.
Hi Suchitra,
I too love the show Indi’s got talent! what yu said is true, Shekhar seemed to be a common man reacting to that little girls performance with tears! His josh at times! lovely show as such, great talent hunt! After watching him on the shown I peepd into his blog and from there to yours now. I am a frequent visitor of his Blog as i find it amazing!
Regarding the past (as you seem ok talking about it), its better late than never!
Its ego that spoils any relationship! if u want to win the battle lose once and see, ill your ego once and see, you will conquer everything, even the lost love, as love can never be lost, it is just we do not see it anymore, its is that we become blind, love remains the same, if it is not the same, if it is not eternal it was never love.
I do not need a reply, nor uploading of this comment! I just request you to look at the whole story as an observer, I respect the decision of any couple who decide to live apart! But this not possible to ever kill the devine love, also love is an entity that can remain full even if you share with more than one person, just like a single child or 4 sibblings, each child gets 100% of mom’s love. So why do you need to think of old memories of the days you were in love with shekhar, if you were sincerely in love with him then, your heart will know it, you can not stop
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continued ……you can not stop your heart from beating at a higher pace for your loved one, just feel all that heart beat, if I may request you to do so. It is ones ego that refuses to die, refuses to lose the battle and tries to hide the defeat. Lose onece to gain for rest of your life, after all love matters, nothing else! Ego kills expression of love, innocence of love, warmth of thinking and dreaming about loved one. Ego is like a cloud it can mask strong Sun for a while, But love is like sun, immortal, eternal, no ego, no cloud can kill it. kill your ego and let the sun shine ! before its too late!!!
wish you love!
This post brought tears to my eyes.
I love the way you write, it comes straight from your heart… so beautifully touching.